Fall-Themed Wreaths Already? 🍂🚫

Geesh, I am not ready yet for pumpkin spice lattes, Halloween candy at the drugstore, or orange ribbons on door wreaths.

Don’t get me wrong, I love a seasonally-themed wreath. But not yet. It’s still August and soon enough this lazy Vermont summer will stagger into cable-knit sweaters and shoveling and snow tires.

But not yet. For now we savor.

If you’re on the divorce journey, you may not feel like savoring a d@mn thing. You may feel sad, or betrayed, or be filled with worry about the future. You want this pain to end, and it’s difficult to see a way forward.

“Recovery begins,” writes psychologist Paul Foxman (featured in my course Fresh Start), “with how we think about what we experience. Techniques and strategies for trauma recovery will be ineffective for those who do not believe they can thrive.”

Well that stopped me in my tracks.

Do YOU believe you can thrive?

When I was in that dark place, I found that savoring the small things kickstarted a belief that I could someday heal and thrive. For me, it was spending time with small humans, fancy coffee, and good books. This summer I’ve been holding on to all my precious opportunities. Heck, I even sang Lizzo in front of strangers at a drag karaoke—I guess thriving is different for everyone.

So maybe it’s time for that pumpkin spice latte after all—so long as I savor it too.

Warmly,

Sarah🖖

PS: Are you ready to thrive in your fresh start? I created my online course Fresh Start to help. Watch a series of short video interviews with experts on the legal, financial, emotional, and co-parenting aspects you need to know, and emerge whole. We got you—and you got this.

Image: Roman mosaic from a villa at Daphne near Antioch (modern Antakya, Turkey), 325-330 CE, on display at the RISD Art Museum. Photo by Sarah Lyman, PurplCouch.