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Should you throw yourself a 🎉 divorce party? Sep 10, 2023

Have you heard of a Divorce Party? Hang black balloons, play pin the tail on the ex? I wanted to commemorate the next chapter of my life, but chanting, “I do, I did, I’m done” around a bonfire roasting my wedding dress? That didn’t really resonate with me.

When I got...

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The worst divorce advice 🔥 I’ve ever heard Aug 03, 2023

The worst divorce advice I’ve ever heard was the one I treasured the most.

I was reeling from the news that my husband wanted a divorce. To me it felt so sudden, but he said he was unhappy for awhile, and then he admitted some uncool behavior. I was devastated.

My dear friend found out, and...

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How do you keep kids at the center of divorce 🍭 and not in the middle of it? Jul 16, 2023

Are you wondering how to navigate divorce with your children?

Alyssa Campbell is an expert in childhood emotional development. She and I talked recently on her podcast about how to keep children at the center of divorceand not in the middle. But how do you do that logistically and...

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5 Things Ted Lasso 📺 Taught Me About Divorce Jun 04, 2023

(Don’t worry, there are no Ted spoilers here )

Oh goodness, I finished the final Ted Lasso episode last night and YES OF COURSE I started crying FROM THE MOMENT it started.

It’s a beautiful and joyful series from start to finish, and if you haven’t seen it, read to the end of...

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Why 🤔 did I get divorced? May 21, 2023

Are you gettingor have you beendivorced?

Have you asked yourself why?

What if you ask yourself why FIVE TIMES?

The “Five Whys” is a tool to investigate cause-and-effect relationships underlying a problem. First described by the folks at Toyota manufacturing, this root...

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Would you ask ChatGPT 🖥️ about your marriage? May 05, 2023

Imagine that your friend is in a struggling marriage, and having an affair. One night they ask ChatGPT what they should do. Based on the Artificial Intelligence (AI) bot’s response, they decide to end their marriage and move in with their new lover. Can you believe that this really happened...

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How to know when to 🚶🏽? Apr 09, 2023

If you’ve been reading my emails for a while, (oh, if you’re new, welcome!), you may have gleaned that my divorce was not initiated by me. It was harsh, a total surprise, and it hit me hard. I often write from that perspective, but I know there are many who are the ones making the...

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When divorce is like ✂️ death by a thousand cuts Mar 25, 2023

We are familiar with divorce’s Big Moments of Pain - fights, moving out, seeing your ex arm-in-arm with their new partner.

Honestly, though, what’s so draining is the small everyday things that add up. The “death by a thousand cuts.”

Tell me if any of these resonate.

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My leopard-spotted gecko 🦎 lasted longer than my marriage Mar 12, 2023

Recently I’ve had a realization. One of my longest relationships is with a gecko.

In 2002, I purchased a leopard-spotted gecko. A guy needed to find a home for it, so he sold me the cage, bedding, heat lamp, and the critter, all for $50.* A deal, right?

That was twenty years ago.

And the...

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Ice cream and snarkiness on this Valentine’s Day 💜 Feb 14, 2023

First up: I’ve had many folks sign up for this newsletter recently, so if you’re new here, welcome. Wherever you are on the divorce journey, you’re in the right place here.

 

We’re coming up on Valentine’s Day. I mean, who could miss it? Everywhere it’s...

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Books You Need on Divorce (& What's Next) 📚 Jan 29, 2023

If you're on the divorce journey, it can can seem overwhelming. But you're not alone. Many have written about separation and what's next, and I share a few of their books with you here. These authors range from attorneys to psychotherapists - from humor writers to the Dalai Lama. 

I...

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Sexuality, Spirituality 🌠 & Emotional Intelligence Jan 20, 2023

What do sex, god, and emotion have to do with divorce, you’re asking?

I recently chatted with three extraordinary women on how divorce intersects with their areas of expertise. I am super pumped to be adding their voices to my Fresh Start course soon. If you’ve already purchased the...

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