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Have you heard of a Divorce Party? Hang black balloons, play pin the tail on the ex? I wanted to commemorate the next chapter of my life, but chanting, “I do, I did, I’m done” around a bonfire roasting my wedding dress? That didn’t really resonate with me.
When I got...
The worst divorce advice I’ve ever heard was the one I treasured the most.
I was reeling from the news that my husband wanted a divorce. To me it felt so sudden, but he said he was unhappy for awhile, and then he admitted some uncool behavior. I was devastated.
My dear friend found out, and...
Are you wondering how to navigate divorce with your children?
Alyssa Campbell is an expert in childhood emotional development. She and I talked recently on her podcast about how to keep children at the center of divorce—and not in the middle. But how do you do that logistically and...
(Don’t worry, there are no Ted spoilers here )
Oh goodness, I finished the final Ted Lasso episode last night and YES OF COURSE I started crying FROM THE MOMENT it started.
It’s a beautiful and joyful series from start to finish, and if you haven’t seen it, read to the end of...
Are you getting—or have you been—divorced?
Have you asked yourself why?
What if you ask yourself why FIVE TIMES?
The “Five Whys” is a tool to investigate cause-and-effect relationships underlying a problem. First described by the folks at Toyota manufacturing, this root...
Imagine that your friend is in a struggling marriage, and having an affair. One night they ask ChatGPT what they should do. Based on the Artificial Intelligence (AI) bot’s response, they decide to end their marriage and move in with their new lover. Can you believe that this really happened...
If you’ve been reading my emails for a while, (oh, if you’re new, welcome!), you may have gleaned that my divorce was not initiated by me. It was harsh, a total surprise, and it hit me hard. I often write from that perspective, but I know there are many who are the ones making the...
We are familiar with divorce’s Big Moments of Pain - fights, moving out, seeing your ex arm-in-arm with their new partner.
Honestly, though, what’s so draining is the small everyday things that add up. The “death by a thousand cuts.”
Tell me if any of these resonate.
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Recently I’ve had a realization. One of my longest relationships is with a gecko.
In 2002, I purchased a leopard-spotted gecko. A guy needed to find a home for it, so he sold me the cage, bedding, heat lamp, and the critter, all for $50.* A deal, right?
That was twenty years ago.
And the...
First up: I’ve had many folks sign up for this newsletter recently, so if you’re new here, welcome. Wherever you are on the divorce journey, you’re in the right place here.
We’re coming up on Valentine’s Day. I mean, who could miss it? Everywhere it’s...
If you're on the divorce journey, it can can seem overwhelming. But you're not alone. Many have written about separation and what's next, and I share a few of their books with you here. These authors range from attorneys to psychotherapists - from humor writers to the Dalai Lama.
I...
What do sex, god, and emotion have to do with divorce, you’re asking?
I recently chatted with three extraordinary women on how divorce intersects with their areas of expertise. I am super pumped to be adding their voices to my Fresh Start course soon. If you’ve already purchased the...