Books You Need on Divorce (& What's Next) 📚

Jan 29, 2023
Sarah Lyman holding two books on divorce

If you're on the divorce journey, it can can seem overwhelming. But you're not alone. Many have written about separation and what's next, and I share a few of their books with you here. These authors range from attorneys to psychotherapists - from humor writers to the Dalai Lama. 

I particularly wish to highlight books by Vermont authors Kimberly Harrington and Nanci Smith. I've met them, and let's just say I'm unashamedly a #FanGirl.


Cover of the book Untangling Your Marriage       

Untangling Your Marriage: A Guide to Collaborative Divorce
Nanci A. Smith
Collaborative divorce offers a different, more peaceful path to ending a marriage; this book shows you how to do it.

I interview Nanci in my course Fresh Start; she's such a thoughtful compassionate attorney. And we both apparently have a penchant for purple?


But You Seemed So Happy: A Marriage, in Pieces and Bits
Kimberly Harrington
An honest, intimate biography of a marriage, from its heady, idealistic, and easy beginnings to it slowly coming apart and finally to its evolution into something completely unexpected.

If you aren't already, check out Kimberly's essays on Substack. Also her So You Just Announced Your Divorce Bingo.




More Reading Recommendations

Bad Sex: Truth, Pleasure, and an Unfinished Revolution, Nona Willis Aronowitz

The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World, Dalai Lama, Desmond Tutu

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, Pema Chodron

What About the Kids?: Raising Your Children Before, During, and After Divorce, Judith Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee

Why Don't We All Live Together Anymore?, (for children) Emma Waddington (Author), Louis Thomas (Illustrator)

Dinosaurs Divorce (for children), Marc Brown, Laurie Krasny Brown

The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap, Stephanie Coontz

Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate, Gabrielle Hartley, Elena Brower

Home Will Never Be the Same Again: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce, Carol R. Hughes, Bruce R. Fredenburg

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, Esther Perel

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, Emily Nagoski

Light on the Other Side of Divorce: Discovering the New You, Elizabeth Cohen

Unf*ck Your Intimacy: Using Science for Better Relationships, Sex, and Dating, Faith Harper

Single. On Purpose.: Find Yourself First, John Kim

Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After, Katherine Woodward Thomas

List curated by Phoenix Books, Kimberly Harrington, Nanci Smith, and Sarah Lyman.


In the meantime, if you're looking for divorce support, I built this Fresh Start course for you, featuring interviews with divorce professionals and some cheerleading from me.


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