Do you “do” New Year’s resolutions?
My resolutions do not align with the Gregorian calendar. They tend to come when I’m either bored or facing a major life crisis - like say, a divorce.
When my husband suddenly left me I was filled with sadness and uncertainty and stress. My monumental resolutions consisted of daily goals like:
Get out of bed
Bathe at least one body part
Eat something other than boxed mac & cheese
I was not successful every day.
A little ways in, I graduated to bigger goals like not stalking my ex’s Instagram to wallow in pics of the new happy couple.
I was not successful every day.
But as the fog lifted, I started thinking bigger. Instead of looking at this time of uncertainty as only disruptive, I realized it’s also an opportunity. I started to reframe my thoughts from
I don’t know what I’ll do with myself without him.
👉 What hobbies have I always wanted to pursue that I didn’t do because I was with him?
My future is dark and uncertain.
👉 How do I want to build this new future?
Eventually my thoughts turned to setting intentions. I picked up a new hobby (or four). I picked out a new apartment (twice). I even got a new job. I started building things intentionally.
I certainly haven’t gotten “it” figured out yet. But I invite you to allow yourself to daydream about how you’d remake your life if you had the chance. Because you do.
Warmly,
Sarah 🖖
PS: Stay tuned! I’m building a small online course that’s laser-focused on divorce finances. You’ll be the first ones to know.