My resolutions do not align with the Gregorian calendar

Jan 08, 2022
Historic painting of woman with spyglass

Do you “do” New Year’s resolutions?

My resolutions do not align with the Gregorian calendar. They tend to come when I’m either bored or facing a major life crisis - like say, a divorce.

When my husband suddenly left me I was filled with sadness and uncertainty and stress. My monumental resolutions consisted of daily goals like:

  • Get out of bed
  • Bathe at least one body part
  • Eat something other than boxed mac & cheese

I was not successful every day.

A little ways in, I graduated to bigger goals like not stalking my ex’s Instagram to wallow in pics of the new happy couple.

I was not successful every day.

But as the fog lifted, I started thinking bigger. Instead of looking at this time of uncertainty as only disruptive, I realized it’s also an opportunity. I started to reframe my thoughts from

I don’t know what I’ll do with myself without him.
๐Ÿ‘‰ What hobbies have I always wanted to pursue that I didn’t do because I was with him?

My future is dark and uncertain.
๐Ÿ‘‰ How do I want to build this new future?

Eventually my thoughts turned to setting intentions. I picked up a new hobby (or four). I picked out a new apartment (twice). I even got a new job. I started building things intentionally.

I certainly haven’t gotten “it” figured out yet. But I invite you to allow yourself to daydream about how you’d remake your life if you had the chance. Because you do.

Sarah ๐Ÿ––

PS: Stay tuned! I’m building a small online course that’s laser-focused on divorce finances. You’ll be the first ones to know.

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