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Ramen noodles 🍜 & bare-knuckle coping Mar 06, 2022

Well with the news around the world, I wasn’t feeling super snarky today. In fact, I was feeling downright melancholy. Or mad. I get those two feelings confused sometimes.

My initial plan was to Instagram-filter social-media-grin-and-bear-it.

But there’s a global pandemic approaching...

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Baths with plants 🪴 and other post-divorce aspirations Feb 27, 2022

When I was married, I had a country life. My ex and I owned a home in rural New York, and much of my free time was spent doing chores, or in one of the phases of home renovation (planning, preparing, camping indoors, and cleaning up afterwards). I was into it. I learned how to use a wood splitter...

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Divorce finances 🤑 got you 🤒? Feb 19, 2022

*Full transparency: I would like to sell something to you. It costs $17 and it could really help with your divorce finances.*
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Does this sound like you?

You are feeling overwhelmed by all the paperwork of divorce.
You are not sure you have a handle on the household...

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Happy bleeping V-Day Feb 14, 2022

“As if I needed another dang reminder of V-Day,” you may be thinking, “I’ve been walking past those pink boxes at the drugstore since December.”

Whatever this “holiday” means to you (and for me it’s a mix of loneliness, rampant capitalism, and the...

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My V-Day strategy ain’t chocolate Feb 07, 2022

Want to know my Valentine’s Day strategy?

It’s gotten me through the happy googly-eyed times when I had a partner. It’s gotten me through the “meh” times when the partner forgot/didn’t care/wasn’t around/was being a dinkus. And it got me through the solo...

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Get your “but” out Jan 24, 2022

I've been trying to get rid of my "but"s.

I’ve recently started looking for any opportunity to swap the word “but” for the word “and”.

So instead of, “I hear what you’re saying but I disagree.” I say, “I hear what you’re saying and I...

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My resolutions do not align with the Gregorian calendar Jan 08, 2022

Do you “do” New Year’s resolutions?

My resolutions do not align with the Gregorian calendar. They tend to come when I’m either bored or facing a major life crisis - like say, a divorce.

When my husband suddenly left me I was filled with sadness and uncertainty and stress....

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You want to take your top off? Dec 27, 2021

A few months ago, I walked into a nearby fast food chain to get a coffee. I placed my order and set my travel mug down on the counter for the clerk to fill.

She nods, punches in the order, then asks, “You want to take your top off?”

I looked up at her, blinked twice, and blurted out,...

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Dear Deflatoland lawn decorations, I feel your pain Dec 12, 2021

I seem to be drawn to the Deflatoland lawn decorations this time of year. Sure, last night the snowman stood proud and tall and shone brightly, but this morning he’s in a sad heap, his head draped haphazardly over the shriveled rhododendron. And Snoopy, once the revered World War I Flying...

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That roasting pan & other things I miss about my ex Nov 29, 2021

I was excited to make a pumpkin cheesecake for my family this Thanksgiving and I had all the ingredients but where the h*ll is that roasting pan? I knew I had it. I searched high and low in my apartment.

But it turns out that roasting pan went to my ex-husband during our divorce.

UGGGGH. I was...

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