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Will you come to my πŸŽ‰ party? Sep 24, 2022

I’ve been working on an idea for a little while. NOW IT’S REAL - and YOU’RE INVITED!

I am throwing a party Oct 27 in Burlington, VT with my colleagues Amanda and Nanci, two amazing divorce pros featured in my Fresh Start course.

Been divorced, or going through one? Sick of the...

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Hi πŸ‘‹ from β€˜Uncle Sarah’ Sep 03, 2022

I’ve been spending some time with my family this Labor Day weekend, and it’s bringing back memories from when I got divorced. My nieces were ages 3 and 7 at the time, and very curious about my situation.

Why would I be moving out from my house? Why won’t they be seeing their...

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Fall-Themed Wreaths Already? πŸ‚πŸš« Aug 14, 2022

Geesh, I am not ready yet for pumpkin spice lattes, Halloween candy at the drugstore, or orange ribbons on door wreaths.

Don’t get me wrong, I love a seasonally-themed wreath. But not yet. It’s still August and soon enough this lazy Vermont summer will stagger into cable-knit sweaters...

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Too old πŸ‘΅ for a fresh start? Jul 31, 2022

Tell me if this resonates with you.

A friend in her 60s is going through a divorce. She’s figuring out a new income stream, making new housing arrangements. It’s been daunting to say the least.

Then she told me she felt “too old for a fresh start.”

Well that broke my heart...

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Here’s to πŸ—Ή small accomplishments Jul 16, 2022

Big accomplishments get big celebrations, right? Graduation ceremonies, birthdays, first prize trophies - they mark the moment in time and in our memories.

But each of these are actually made up of thousands of smaller steps. We should mark those small moments as well - it can actually keep us...

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β€œBless Your πŸ’œβ€ & Starting with a New Therapist Jul 06, 2022

When I was in the middle of getting divorced several years ago, a friend recommended I meet with a therapist. I hadn’t ever been to one, so I was nervous, not to mention defensive. Not knowing anything about the process or how to begin, I waltzed into her office (remember when we went...

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A Rollercoaster 🎒 of Divorce (& Life) Jun 14, 2022

Well, it’s been a week of Huge Highs and Low Lows for me.

One Huge High was speaking at the conference of Vermont Womenpreneurs. I heard amazing women talk about their business journeys, and I got to share mine. Once common theme? Big things often come from a “life transition”...

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A πŸ’Œ to my former step-daughter May 15, 2022

Last weekend was Mother’s Day, which can be complicated. Not everyone has a mother still living. Not everyone has a good relationship with their mother. Not every woman has children and sometimes that’s a hard choice - or wasn’t their choice. And then there’s the zillion...

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This 🧻 is the question the dating aps need Apr 24, 2022

There are two types of people in this world, and it only takes one quick observation.

Some might be thinking skin tone (as if that’s a binary). Or man or woman (also not a binary). I had a middle school gym teacher split us into groups based on whether our belly button was innie or outie...

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Find your rage! πŸ‘Ώ and other things I’ve misheard Apr 10, 2022

The second my friend picked up the phone, I blurted out, “I need you to talk me out of calling my ex and ripping him a new asshole.”

This anger is swirling in me right now, in fact, as I type. My heart rate is elevated, my fingers are banging the keys so they’re clacking in a...

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Bunker down or take the dang phone call? ☎️ Mar 27, 2022

I don’t know about you, but when I’m down, I retreat into my corner.

I pull down the shades, put on the sweatpants, and tune out the world. This was especially true during my divorce. I totally hunkered down. (Yet the Germanic origin of “hunker” means “crouch”...

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Do you want sympathy or solutions? 🎁 Mar 13, 2022

It has taken me a long time to realize it, but I am an annoying problem solver.

My friend and I met for coffee recently and she was telling me about major drama she was having with her romantic partner. She felt that she wasn’t being heard, that the household decisions were always about...

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