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This ๐Ÿงป is the question the dating aps need Apr 24, 2022

There are two types of people in this world, and it only takes one quick observation.

Some might be thinking skin tone (as if that’s a binary). Or man or woman (also not a binary). I had a middle school gym teacher split us into groups based on whether our belly button was innie or outie...

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Find your rage! ๐Ÿ‘ฟ and other things Iโ€™ve misheard Apr 10, 2022

The second my friend picked up the phone, I blurted out, “I need you to talk me out of calling my ex and ripping him a new asshole.”

This anger is swirling in me right now, in fact, as I type. My heart rate is elevated, my fingers are banging the keys so they’re clacking in a...

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Bunker down or take the dang phone call? โ˜Ž๏ธ Mar 27, 2022

I don’t know about you, but when I’m down, I retreat into my corner.

I pull down the shades, put on the sweatpants, and tune out the world. This was especially true during my divorce. I totally hunkered down. (Yet the Germanic origin of “hunker” means “crouch”...

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Do you want sympathy or solutions? ๐ŸŽ Mar 13, 2022

It has taken me a long time to realize it, but I am an annoying problem solver.

My friend and I met for coffee recently and she was telling me about major drama she was having with her romantic partner. She felt that she wasn’t being heard, that the household decisions were always about...

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Ramen noodles ๐Ÿœ & bare-knuckle coping Mar 06, 2022

Well with the news around the world, I wasn’t feeling super snarky today. In fact, I was feeling downright melancholy. Or mad. I get those two feelings confused sometimes.

My initial plan was to Instagram-filter social-media-grin-and-bear-it.

But there’s a global pandemic approaching...

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Baths with plants ๐Ÿชด and other post-divorce aspirations Feb 27, 2022

When I was married, I had a country life. My ex and I owned a home in rural New York, and much of my free time was spent doing chores, or in one of the phases of home renovation (planning, preparing, camping indoors, and cleaning up afterwards). I was into it. I learned how to use a wood splitter...

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Divorce finances ๐Ÿค‘ got you ๐Ÿค’? Feb 19, 2022

*Full transparency: I would like to sell something to you. It costs $17 and it could really help with your divorce finances.*
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Does this sound like you?

You are feeling overwhelmed by all the paperwork of divorce.
You are not sure you have a handle on the household...

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Happy bleeping V-Day Feb 14, 2022

“As if I needed another dang reminder of V-Day,” you may be thinking, “I’ve been walking past those pink boxes at the drugstore since December.”

Whatever this “holiday” means to you (and for me it’s a mix of loneliness, rampant capitalism, and the...

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My V-Day strategy ainโ€™t chocolate Feb 07, 2022

Want to know my Valentine’s Day strategy?

It’s gotten me through the happy googly-eyed times when I had a partner. It’s gotten me through the “meh” times when the partner forgot/didn’t care/wasn’t around/was being a dinkus. And it got me through the solo...

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Get your โ€œbutโ€ out Jan 24, 2022

I've been trying to get rid of my "but"s.

I’ve recently started looking for any opportunity to swap the word “but” for the word “and”.

So instead of, “I hear what you’re saying but I disagree.” I say, “I hear what you’re saying and I...

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My resolutions do not align with the Gregorian calendar Jan 08, 2022

Do you “do” New Year’s resolutions?

My resolutions do not align with the Gregorian calendar. They tend to come when I’m either bored or facing a major life crisis - like say, a divorce.

When my husband suddenly left me I was filled with sadness and uncertainty and stress....

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You want to take your top off? Dec 27, 2021

A few months ago, I walked into a nearby fast food chain to get a coffee. I placed my order and set my travel mug down on the counter for the clerk to fill.

She nods, punches in the order, then asks, “You want to take your top off?”

I looked up at her, blinked twice, and blurted out,...

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