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There are two types of people in this world, and it only takes one quick observation.

Some might be thinking skin tone (as if that’s a binary). Or man or woman (also not a binary). I had a middle school gym teacher split us into groups based on whether our belly button was innie or outie...

The second my friend picked up the phone, I blurted out, “I need you to talk me out of calling my ex and ripping him a new asshole.”

This anger is swirling in me right now, in fact, as I type. My heart rate is elevated, my fingers are banging the keys so they’re clacking in a...

I don’t know about you, but when I’m down, I retreat into my corner.

I pull down the shades, put on the sweatpants, and tune out the world. This was especially true during my divorce. I totally hunkered down. (Yet the Germanic origin of “hunker” means “crouch”...

It has taken me a long time to realize it, but I am an annoying problem solver.

My friend and I met for coffee recently and she was telling me about major drama she was having with her romantic partner. She felt that she wasn’t being heard, that the household decisions were always about...

Well with the news around the world, I wasn’t feeling super snarky today. In fact, I was feeling downright melancholy. Or mad. I get those two feelings confused sometimes.

My initial plan was to Instagram-filter social-media-grin-and-bear-it.

But there’s a global pandemic approaching...

When I was married, I had a country life. My ex and I owned a home in rural New York, and much of my free time was spent doing chores, or in one of the phases of home renovation (planning, preparing, camping indoors, and cleaning up afterwards). I was into it. I learned how to use a wood splitter...

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Does this sound like you?

You are feeling overwhelmed by all the paperwork of divorce.
You are not sure you have a handle on the household...

“As if I needed another dang reminder of V-Day,” you may be thinking, “I’ve been walking past those pink boxes at the drugstore since December.”

Whatever this “holiday” means to you (and for me it’s a mix of loneliness, rampant capitalism, and the...

Want to know my Valentine’s Day strategy?

It’s gotten me through the happy googly-eyed times when I had a partner. It’s gotten me through the “meh” times when the partner forgot/didn’t care/wasn’t around/was being a dinkus. And it got me through the solo...

I've been trying to get rid of my "but"s.

I’ve recently started looking for any opportunity to swap the word “but” for the word “and”.

So instead of, “I hear what you’re saying but I disagree.” I say, “I hear what you’re saying and I...

Do you “do” New Year’s resolutions?

My resolutions do not align with the Gregorian calendar. They tend to come when I’m either bored or facing a major life crisis - like say, a divorce.

When my husband suddenly left me I was filled with sadness and uncertainty and stress....

A few months ago, I walked into a nearby fast food chain to get a coffee. I placed my order and set my travel mug down on the counter for the clerk to fill.

She nods, punches in the order, then asks, “You want to take your top off?”

I looked up at her, blinked twice, and blurted out,...