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Are you getting—or have you been—divorced?

Have you asked yourself why?

What if you ask yourself why FIVE TIMES?

The “Five Whys” is a tool to investigate cause-and-effect relationships underlying a problem. First described by the folks at Toyota manufacturing, this root...

Imagine that your friend is in a struggling marriage, and having an affair. One night they ask ChatGPT what they should do. Based on the Artificial Intelligence (AI) bot’s response, they decide to end their marriage and move in with their new lover. Can you believe that this really happened...

If you’ve been reading my emails for a while, (oh, if you’re new, welcome!), you may have gleaned that my divorce was not initiated by me. It was harsh, a total surprise, and it hit me hard. I often write from that perspective, but I know there are many who are the ones making the...

We are familiar with divorce’s Big Moments of Pain - fights, moving out, seeing your ex arm-in-arm with their new partner.

Honestly, though, what’s so draining is the small everyday things that add up. The “death by a thousand cuts.”

Tell me if any of these resonate.

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First up, I have a BIG ANNOUNCEMENT.

Registration fee for the Fresh Start course is now on a sliding scale!

I’ve been wanting to do this for a while, and hope it makes the course more accessible to more folks. If you’ve been on the fence about taking it, now is the time. Go check it...

First up: I’ve had many folks sign up for this newsletter recently, so if you’re new here, welcome. Wherever you are on the divorce journey, you’re in the right place here.

We’re coming up on Valentine’s Day. I mean, who could miss it? Everywhere it’s...

If you're on the divorce journey, it can can seem overwhelming. But you're not alone. Many have written about separation and what's next, and I share a few of their books with you here. These authors range from attorneys to psychotherapists - from humor writers to the Dalai Lama. 

I...

What do sex, god, and emotion have to do with divorce, you’re asking?

I recently chatted with three extraordinary women on how divorce intersects with their areas of expertise. I am super pumped to be adding their voices to my Fresh Start course soon. If you’ve already purchased the...

It’s a New Year, and if you’re reading this, you might be on the divorce journey. Or perhaps you’re an ally to someone who is. As I’ve written about before, I don’t follow New Year’s resolutions in the traditional sense, but I do believe the calendar page turn...

I don't know about you, but when I was in the midst of my divorce, the phrase "the holidays are coming" filled me with the same anxiety I felt with the Game of Thrones line, "winter is coming." It can be just too much.

So for a moment of levity, I created for you five cocktail recipes that pair...

I gotta tell you, last week was a BIG. WEEK.

For PurplCouch. For divorcing folks in Burlington. For me personally.

Thirty folks came together last Thursday to talk about divorce. In person. With cocktails and seltzers and chicken bites on skewers. At a party we titled “Plus One Optional: A...

Divorce is hard, and full of loss, grief, and disruption. And at the same time, we know that there are moments in there that are ridiculous, hilarious—even poignant. Dangit we need to breathe and smile again.

And so, as you may have seen in my last note, I’m co-hosting a party called...